Hell, that it is what it has been at work this week. There is a flurry of activity starting this week as we get ready to accept our first implementation from a vendor. Of course, they are behind schedule, we are slightly too but ours can be made up and most likely will hit the targets. I can see this thing falling apart during testing. Next week is not going to be pretty.
I have had a lot of pressure on me this week from every source possible and had at least 3 managers looking over my shoulder. It has sucked for the most part. I thought making a move to Project Management would be fun and exciting, that I would enjoy the interaction between the multiple groups of people I interact with for IT projects. But I am not enjoying it one bit! It probably doesnâ€™t help that I am still also doing all of the tech writing, until they can fill that position. I use to love tech writing, but it was getting monotonous, it was time for a change.
The thing is I not just overwhelmed, I am so far beyond that I donâ€™t even know what to call it. I am hoping that this is just a passing moment and that things will improve but doubt is creeping in. Maybe moving companies will change my perspectives, so it of course that is constantly on my mind and the desire to earn more somewhere else makes it hard to ignore.
In the midst of all this I am also trying to balance my motherâ€™s typical craziness. 2 1/2 years ago she moved back to the area from out west and of course, the good (only-child) loving soul that I am said, â€œsure, come stay with us until you get back on your feet.â€
BACK HISTORY: Now she had stayed with us before, for 9 months! During which she put little effort into looking for a job or her own place. Her contributions to bills, food and such were minimal at best. In fact, that time I had to â€œput her out (had her stay with a friend of mine for 3 weeks)â€ because Bozoboyâ€™s family was arriving from England, a trip they had planned before she came to stay. We were living in an apartment at the time and barely had room for them let alone for her too. In the end, that turned out to be the best thingâ€¦she got a job during that â€œawayâ€ time. In the end, she ended up in the same apartment complex as us.
This time around, you would have thought Iâ€™d have learned my lesson NO I am a glutton for punishment I suppose. I figured that she may spend a bit of time doing little but after 3 months she would start looking for work. Nope. This time though she did occasionally help out with the groceries and paid a small amount towards the rent but that was the extent of her help. BUT that wasnâ€™t the worst partâ€¦and before you go saying, how could we ask her for moneyâ€¦the first time we never did, she had just had a personal tragedy (escaped a house fire that destroyed everything) but the second time we did because we were barely making ends meet ourselves. She had one rather annoying habit, besides talking through programs and asking questions about something because she had talked through itâ€¦ she never left the houseâ€¦so for 10 months or so, she was there every day or evening! We had no quiet time, alone time whatsoever. She has no social life and makes no effort to have one. Doesnâ€™t even think about doing stuff on her own or asking you to go with her if she didnâ€™t want to go alone. In the beginning we felt that we had to take her with everywhere we went. As time went by that changed. We did our thing sometimes we asked her and sometimes we didnâ€™t. We started living our life without her even though she was always there.
To this day, I still think she would have continued staying with us had we not bought a house. We made it very clear that she had to find her own place. I am not the sort of person who wants to live my life with my mother constantly in tow. We just donâ€™t have that kind of bond. I have tried improving things but the truth is she is just not a happy person and doesnâ€™t know what to do to change that behavior or just doesnâ€™t want to. Maybe she is happy in the solitude of her life. I bet you are thinking, how cruel, well you have to know her to understand our dilemma. Besides what I have already mentioned she can be abrasive, contrite, contradictory (to even the things she says), rude, insulting, and to say it nicely, a general pain in the butt. But I love her, soâ€¦we both tolerate her bad behaviors. Nonetheless we moderate our interaction with her. We see her once a week and thatâ€™s about it.
So, getting back to her current craziness. Well since she came in 2003, she has not worked. Has just sat at home (she is renting a house) and done, what? Fuckall, I suspect but of course I donâ€™t know. Now she is getting all panicky about finding a jobâ€¦probably because the money she had been making & saving at the last job is drying up, and the funny thing is she had been making close to 6 figures, for nearly 3 years. I have been helping her with her resume and job resources and basically trying to help her any way I can. She has said sheâ€™s been looking since early spring and just hasnâ€™t gotten calls. Today she applied at Target. I have no problem with her working at Target, taking a job, any job to help pay your bills in a crisis isnâ€™t rocket science. You do what you have to. But I wonder how she got to this point? She has over 25 years in the IT field and she canâ€™t get a job? Why did she sit around for so long before she did something? The dire attitude she is starting to present is just getting under my skin.
I do care a great deal about her and what happens to herâ€¦but I also love Bozoboy and wouldnâ€™t subject him to another interlude in our home with her. We are happy to provide her with financial assistance, if and when she needs it but thereâ€™s no coming back. I have been wishing hard that she finds something soon, anything but something. Besides her piece of mind I need mine back too.
Did I mention she doesnâ€™t have medical insurance and hasnâ€™t even been to a doctor in more than 15-20 years? Fortunately, she has cut back her smoking and drinking considerable. I have other things to worry about, once she does find a job. Please let it be soon.